Have you ever been in love? Well, I’ve been there too. Love is a complex word which can result in complex situations. Each country has a unique culture of expressing love to another.
Japan has a love confessing culture known as kokuhaku. Kokuhaku simply means “confession.” This is quite an exciting part of Japanese life. A person who likes somebody will confess his love for her and asks whether he can be her lover. This is also true not only for men but also for women. It can also mean having a relationship with the person or wanting to see the other one very often.
Remember, once you’ve already confessed to somebody of your love for him or her, it is important to consider not dating other persons. If you do so, then it can be called “cheating.” This may seem absurd in other culture but that’s how it goes in Japan. Kokuhaku is an exclusive commitment to the only person you’ve confessed.
It may seem like a daunting task for the person waiting for the approval of the other half but once accepted, serious relationship can then start. This is the only time both of you are officially in a boyfriend-and-girlfriend relationship. You may have countless dates or meet-ups together but serious relationship can only start once kokuhaku is accepted.
If you want to confess to a Japanese person, please take note of the following:
- Never confess through text. It is a big no-no.
- Never disclose too many things you know about the other person. This might scare her away and think that you’re stalking her.
- Never reveal a confession by writing it on the board for everyone to see.
- You can actually enclose your confession in a New Year’s card.
- Never show them your payslip as this is rude.
- If you’re a stranger and you’re not that close. Never give flowers.
- So, what are you waiting for? Go confess your love while time is still ticking.